When you find the approval of yourself- from yourself, you stop needing, therefore, seeking out, the approval of others.
Social media is an amazing way to communicate. But it sometimes makes me wonder how many people disapprove of themselves.
Self-love has been the biggest game-changer in my journey. I’m my biggest fan and I talk myself up in the mirror every day.
Have you ever looked at yourself in front of a mirror and just said: “I love you!”
It’s fucking hard.
To say to yourself “I love this person standing in front of the mirror more than anything” is so powerful. But for SO MANY people, it is so hard to do. Why?
Because we immediately see our “flaws”. The flaws we have cast upon ourselves ONLY because society, a magazine, the boy in 3rd grade, a relative, or an old girlfriend told us something was wrong with us.
So what happens?
We start judging ourselves; because if we can judge ourselves FIRST it won’t hurt as much when someone else judges us.
What kind of fucked up mechanism have we just created?! All because we want to feel “safe”. We judge ourselves to feel “safe” in our body.
So when we gain weight, we get into toxic relationships, we stay in a job we hate, we turn to social media bc we know we can make our lives seem as magical as we want.
I’m asking you to stop this fucked up cycle and just start with LOVE. Love yourself. I challenge anyone reading this to go look in the mirror (naked if you really want to make it interesting). See what comes up for you. Don’t beat yourself up if it’s negative- just acknowledge what’s coming up for you- but try to silence that voice over time. Replace those negative comments with at least 2 positive ones.
Every. Single. Day.
It’s fucking hard. But believe me- it’s totally worth the work. BECAUSE if you’re not good enough for yourself, then who the fuck are you good enough for?!?!