Enough with ENOUGH

Enough.  What is enough?  How do you know YOU’RE enough? IT’S enough? THIS is enough?

This concept is something that has paralyzed me for years.  The fear of not being enough.  Not good enough to make this business work.  Not skinny enough to rock that dress.  Not patient enough to make a good mom one day.  Not exciting enough to keep my husband interested.  Not smart enough or have enough experience to get a new job.  

Enough.  This word has HAUNTED me.  

What I’ve learned over the years is that no one is ever enough of anything.  At least not in their own eyes.  We ALL have this internal doubt.  This fear.  But it’s up to US to define what is enough.  WE define it.  no one else. #YAASSSS   Seriously.  Repeat this outloud “I am Enough.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  I choose to LOVE myself instead of criticize”.  How does that feel?  Pretty amazing right?  That right there, is FREEDOM.

In the past,I was always so concerned about everyone else’s opinion that I was reaching for a standard that didn’t even exist.  This idea of enough.  I had no idea what it looked like, sounded like, felt like because it was completely made up. I eventually started to realize this and got annoyed.  I was TIRED of not feeling good enough so I decided to make a change.  

I set goals.  FOR ME.  To get ME where I wanted to be.  And those GOALS were now the standard.  Something to reach for.

It started with my fitness.  Lose 5 lbs to look good in my wedding dress.  Well, that 5lbs turned into 13.  YES. 13.   Then it turned into business.  Help 3 people reach THEIR fitness goals this month.  That turned into 15 people.  

Do you see a trend?  Allow yourself the opportunity to show your greatness. 

STOP worrying about what other people are thinking.  The reality of it, is that they aren’t thinking much about you.  At least not with a magnifying glass like you are.  

STOP comparing yourself to others.  They are not you. You are not them. And that is a BEAUTIFUL thing.

START setting goals as your standard.  Give yourself something concrete to work towards.  

START loving yourself for trying instead of criticizing yourself for “failing”.


When you do this, you will see just how “enough” you really are.


Alaina Horbas

Alaina is a special education teacher, wife, yoga instructor, health & fitness coach and personal development junkie. She has spent her 31 years, chasing dreams and learning lessons the hard way. She has made it her life's mission to share the lessons she learned and help others avoid her mistakes so they can find the confidence and feel empowered to live the life they deserve.

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