8 Things I Refuse To Apologize For

I’ve apologized for many things in life. Still, though, there are many things that I absolutely refuse to apologize for (even though some people think I should). Here are 8 things I will never apologize for.

1. Being myself.

Believe it or not, there are very few people in the world who don’t like me. I could care less about people who don’t like me, though. There are millions of people in society , so I’m not going to let one person’s opinion of me change who I am.

2. Running you over in my wheelchair.

If I say “Excuse me” many times and you still don’t move, I may just end up hitting you in the ankles with my chair. Until you learn how to treat wheelchair users like actual human beings and not ignore us when we’re trying to politely move through a crowd, I’m just going to say, “Sorry, not sorry!”

3. Correcting doctors when they’re wrong.

Some doctors classify cerebral palsy as a disease instead of a disorder, which honestly really bothers me. I always hope that doctors of all people would be able to get my disability right, but sometimes, they just don’t. I correct them  all the time, though, and the looks on their faces are priceless. Sometimes, their jaws even drop. It’s pretty funny, and I refuse to stop making my doctor visits just a little more fun.

4. Requesting accessible spaces at restaurants.

When I go out to eat, hostesses often see I’m in a wheelchair but still put me in a tight, inaccessible spot. I’ve had hostesses actually get mad at me for asking that they move my friends and I to a place where my chair will actually fit. No matter how they react, though, I will always ask for an accessible space. I deserve to enjoy my time out just as much as anyone else!

5. Standing up for myself when something is wrong.

When I was nine years old, my uncle, David, told me that St. Nick didn’t exist. I wasn’t having it. I stood strong and told him that St. Nick does exist. I still always stand up for myself in the same way, even though my problems have become far bigger than whether or not Santa is real.

6. Being an overachiever.

Some nights, I stay up until 3 AM to make sure that my voice is heard. I want to make my mark on the world, especially to help young girls with disabilities, and I will stop at nothing to get there.

7. Not sugarcoating the truth.

I’ve always been the “truth teller” in my small group of friends. I’m the outspoken one who tells things how they are, no matter how harsh the truth is. I believe that if your friend comes to you and they ask you for advice, then you shouldn’t sugarcoat what you tell them. My honesty makes me a real friend, and I won’t apologize for it.

8. Making your life more fun.

I’ve always been the “party girl on wheels.” I love to have fun, and I’ll never be sorry for that.

Tylia Flores

Tylia Flores is a 23-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination.

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