How Losing You Showed Me How Strong I Am

It’s been months since I’ve shed a single tear over you, which is something I should’ve never done to begin with. I realized that you were the crab that was pulling me down back to the bottom of the bucket.

When you walked out of my life, I’ll admit it: I cried for a while. I felt defeated. Things have changed, though,  because guess what? I don’t feel the same way you used to make me feel. You took my for granted and tried to break me in the process, but I came out stronger.

I feel so stupid knowing that people tried to warn me about you and your malicious ways. I ignored them, giving you the true benefit of the doubt.

But I couldn’t even see the reality. I was so blind to you and your ways. I thought you were picture-perfect to the point where I lost myself. I was so focused on making you my entire world that I lost my identity in the process of loving you.

I shed so many tears over you when, to be honest, you didn’t deserve a woman like me. I spent hours writing poems about you and spent sleepless nights phone in hand, waiting to hear your voice.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret anything that I did it for you. Our relationship was a learning experience, and it taught me a valuable, unforgettable life lesson: Don’t ever let a man break you down, no matter how much you love them. In the long run, you will lose your identity and your inner beauty.

Thankfully, I was able to free myself and find my true beauty again. For the first time in forever, I was able to stand up for myself and say, “Enough is enough. I have to go.” I realized that you were breaking me down and I had to find my way again.

Luckily, my temporary pain taught me that I was strong enough to walk away from you. I should’ve left sooner, but I’m glad I eventually realized that I am better off without you.

I’m so thankful that I was able to find the courage to say goodbye because now, I’ve found my true identity. I’m doing better then I ever thought I would be. I’m strong, I’m beautiful, and I’m the real me: a determined woman who will never let anyone run me over.

Tylia Flores

Tylia Flores is a 23-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination.

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