To My Exes: Thank You For The Lessons

People (including our exes) come into our lives for a reason. Whether we’ve had good or bad experiences with our exes, we learn something from each experience that we went through. I’ve only been in three relationships in my entire life, but I’m extremely thankful for the lessons my exes taught me when I was with them (and even after we broke up). The lessons they taught me have made me into a stronger, wiser young woman.

To my first love,

I met you in 6th grade history class. You were such a sweetheart and had an old soul, even though we were 11 years old. You had Autism, but you taught me that I should always be myself. I learned that though society may judge my appearance, there is nothing wrong with me, as long as I stay true to who I am. I thank you for the lessons and wish you all the happiness and success in the world.

To my second boyfriend,

Our journey started in our computer class. When I first transferred to our high school, you went from being my computer partner to my friend to my boyfriend in just a year. However, our relationship ended with so much anger and pain, especially because you always made it clear that I wasn’t your “type.” Even though we ended on bad terms, you taught me is there nothing wrong with my beauty. You showed me that society has a long way to go in accepting women with disabilities, which has driven me to advocate for myself and others even more fiercely. I’m thankful that you’ve given me a new perspective on my life experiences.

To my most recent ex,

We spent five years together and shared both good memories and bad, but I will always carry in my heart the sweet times we spent together. You taught me that sometimes, it’s better to walk away from someone you love, especially when they become a different person. Leaving is hard, but it’s better to set your partners free than to keep them in relationships that no longer fit them. Setting you free showed tremendous strength, but thank you for teaching me that I made the right decision, and my heart is still pure without you. I appreciate all the lessons you’ve taught me.


Your ex-girlfriend


Tylia Flores

Tylia Flores is a 23-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination.

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