The New Year is such an exciting time (after getting over the New Year’s Day hangover of course). The ball dropping at midnight has always been a time for many like myself to make resolutions, forget the past, and the turn of a new leaf.
When I sat down to write about moving forward it occurred to me how can all of these new things happen if I don’t take the time to really think about what has happened in the past?
It hit me like a ton of bricks, what I’ve been doing this New Year, new me thing all wrong. Beyond the new year what if this forward-thinking tendency I have could actually be holding me back?
The cliché, “you can’t know where you’re going if you don’t know where you’ve been” came to mind and really opened a can of worms for me to think about.
My boyfriend loves to just live in the moment. He’s very charismatic and will do what he wants to do, constantly living in the present. As for me, I like to plan. There must be a plan or it will all go to shit. Dramatic, I know. As you can imagine this has caused countless arguments between us. I’ve prided myself on this thinking for years and in my stubbornness have never been able to find the right balance. The times when he’d say just relax (the worst thing to say to a woman) I flipped out. I had to know the plan.
2017 has been a whirlwind for me to say the least. I’ve moved twice, lost a loved one, but also gained and found a new love in friendships when I needed them the most. None of these things were predictable so my head was spinning. Through all of this, my thought was what’s next instead of being present in what was happening.
It’s about time I start breathing, really taking a deep inhale and exhale.
2018 will be this time for me. Enjoying each moment and soaking them up for what they are. I hope this will not only the start of taking deep breathes but also the beginning of patient and appreciation moving forward when the time is right, not a second sooner.
There is a lot of learning and experiences to be had and I think this 2018 resolution will be just what I needed to open new doors I didn’t even realize could be there. If you’re a constant forward thinker like me I hope you’ll do the same. Really think about where you’ve come from and then where you’re going.
Be patient in each moment because you never know when you’ll get the next.