This may seem odd or weird to some, but the one thing you all might not know about me is I have trust issues when it comes to people. I’m very protective of myself when it comes to friending people on Facebook especially. The trust issues come from past damage and pain a family member and some fake friends have caused me.
Pain can and will change you as a person. When you’ve experienced pain, the wounds will not heal all the way. You will overthink more, only let certain people into your life, and shut a lot of people out. This is exactly how I am today. You may think, “well Jules, you’re not like that. You get along with everyone.” Due to past damage and pain, I don’t anymore, I’ve changed as a person because of it.
They say having family on Facebook is good, it’s a way to keep in touch with the ones you haven’t seen or don’t get to see often. The truth is, this statement is not true, especially if the family member is toxic to your life. If this is the case, get rid of them!!! I did, and it was the healthiest choice I’ve ever made. I’m better without this person and so is my mental health. You bet your money I will never let this person in my life again……ever. Make the right choice, your life will be just fine without the toxins too.
Friends ahh friends, the people that become like family. You know that saying, “you can never have too many friends.” This is true. However, if you know their going to be toxic to you, cut them out, You don’t deserve those types of friends. You need the ones that will lift you up, cheer you on and support you. Not the ones that will bring you down, beat your self-esteem to a pulp and are constantly using you for the money, food and a place to stay. I had a friend like this as well, she was nice to me at first, but then started treating me awfully. She pushed my buttons so hard, I wanted to jump through the computer and smack her. The ending to our fake friendship was not so good and it was also nasty. It left me hurt, broken, sad and angry. I told myself after I would never trust a friendship, I make online again. Yes, it was that bad.
Facebook, it can be good and bad. This is where the trust issues and protection of myself come in big time. Ever since I joined 5 years ago, I’ve been bullied three times (The most recent bully incident happened on new years this year.) and harassed once. Because of all these things happening, I’m very selective of who I friend, it’s not just anyone anymore. Being harassed online in the worst way was one of the scarcest things ever. That left me scarred for life. Be careful of who you pick as friends on Facebook, not everyone is going to be what you think their gong to be.
It’s ok to have trust issues. Your human and go through things like everyone else does. It’s ok to be you and only you. Don’t change for anyone. Be yourself and nothing less then that. Remember that, I see you, I’m listening, and I hear you…. Always.