The Balancing Act

Balance is not a strong suit of mine.

The last couples of years I see that having balance in life is about how many times life sucker punches your heart. That you can still stay positive and hang on to your small circle of people that you know won’t let you fall. It’s a good day where your “chi” is all warm and fuzzy. That is a well-balanced moment where you can say, “thanks for the save back there karma.”

Overall, I think the word balance is just a buzz word that people throw around. It’s never really put into practice because I think people equate balance with perfection. With technology driving everything we do these days, I see balance more like whatever I can get accomplished without the presence of a meltdown or alarms sounding that’s what I consider balance these days. Everyone juggles more than their share of things on a daily basis. That is the essence of life-dealing with whatever you have been handed in life and getting through it.

No life is a balanced life. The desire is there yes, but in the end what wins out is what works for you. That, in my opinion, is more of a realistic definition of balance and what it means to really have it in your life. Our problem as a society is that we expect our life to come out a certain way, picture perfect, balanced, and put together all the time. That is what we mistake as “normal” and in reality that is the furthest thing from normal for anyone.

Being balanced, to me, means, that while you may not have it all together, you can find what does balance you in moments of necessity. My balance consists of my faith in God, family, true friendship, love, coffee, writing, music, cats, books, chocolate-A range of things that come off as simple, but to me have the biggest impact of joy, happiness, and yes, balance to my life. When we immediately think about the word balance, and the definition we automatically go to the physical act of keeping our balance to keep us from falling and getting hurt right? But does that happen all the time? Of course not.

But in those moments for when you do have your balance do you ever stop and take in that moment? Do you react to whatever is happening at that moment? What do you do? Because in the end, the true value of having balance is how long you have control of it but what you do at that moment. it is also important to be aware, recognize it and accept it. We all can’t be the greatest jugglers in the world, but at the end of the day if we appreciated those moments of balance in our lives and accepted them for what they are, and not what they should be. Then I say, that is pretty damn good.

Jessica Niziolek

Jessica is the founder of and writes for The Abler - a blog that deals with topics with far too much stigma, and not enough education or knowledge. She is an advocate for the disability community. Jessica is also a contributing writer for MEDIUM.COM. Lastly, she is a coffee and chocolate junkie who loves heavy metal and rock music.

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