One Date Wonders

You meet a person. They end up being the person of your dreams. The man may think this woman is the most beautiful woman in the world. The woman is thinking he’s so cute and handsome. You ask them for their phone number. If they say yes, you then call or text them up and ask them to go on a date. They say yes. You’re doing everything you can to prepare for the date. Dress nicely and smell good.

Next comes the date. You pick them up from their house or meet at the restaurant if that’s more comfortable between you 2.

The man is worrying about being a gentleman to the woman. He may get the woman flowers. He would hope the woman looks pretty so he can point it out. The man is worrying about having enough money to pay for him and his date to have dinner. He may get nervous on how it’s going especially if this woman is the woman of his dreams. He may also be concerned that the car or job he has will satisfy the woman of his dreams.

Women may worry about “Will he like my outfit?” “Does he like the way I did my makeup?” She may also ask “Am I too fat or too skinny?” They may also question if he is going to be interesting enough for me to continue to want to date him? “What kind of car is he driving?” “Will he be needy after the date?” “Is he desperate for a girlfriend?” They may also ask what restaurant he’s going to take her to and if it’s going to be any good?

As the date happens, it all goes wrong and it ends up being a one date wonder.

 For women, it may be for a different reason every time. One time it’s due to not looking nice. Another time it may be that the restaurant he took her to wasn’t good. The woman may not like the man’s car he’s driving. The woman may not find the man interesting at all. It could be for something different every time.

And as the guy moves on to try pursuing another woman, he’ll get frustrated over and over with more “one date wonders” until he finally gets a second date for once and a long-term relationship.

For a man, it also may be for a different reason every time. He may not be attracted to her on the inside despite what her physical appearance is. He may not like how she dresses or does her makeup. He may also not want her to wear makeup. He may not find her interesting either. She may have anger issues. He may not want to date a heavier woman or too skinny of a woman. He may not trust her as well.

The man can be so desperate as well. He may have been single for a long time. He may have just gotten out of a long-term relationship that was very serious. He may also be dating again after just going through a divorce. Or he may have kids that he would hope to have a mother figure for if their mother isn’t in the picture anymore.

He ends up being needy if that’s the case.

 He’ll call or text right away if the date is over. It won’t take him long to follow up with you. “I miss you already” texts will come in right away. The woman won’t want a second date if that’s the case. Once again, a “one date wonder.”

Dating and relationships could be one of the hardest things to handle out of everything in life. It can be very frustrating to not get it right 10 times before you do. But one day, even if you screw up 20 times beforehand, you will get it right if you try not to make the same mistakes every time.

Louis Scarantino

Louis Scarantino is a man on the autism spectrum. He advocates for autism awareness. He grew up in Northeastern PA. He started writing and speaking after meeting his favorite singer Shania Twain! He's also published articles for The Mighty, Thought Catalog, YourTango, and Unwritten! He has his own website! He hopes to become an international Autism Advocate and get a film made about his life!

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