Timing is everything.

Timing is everything – or at least that is what I keep hearing.

I say: Bull shit.

When is the last time things legitimately made sense? Honestly, I think I have grown to be an advocate and fan of the random happenings in my life. Timing is almost never perfect or right.

Let me explain.

In the last few weeks, it feels like seventeen different things have collided simultaneously right in front of me and I am not sure how to prioritize or where to start. These things have nothing to do with the fact that it is a Sunday. It has everything to do with the fact that this is my life now – in this moment, and this moment, and this moment too.

For example, there is no one controlling the fact that you might get your heart broken at a specific time in a specific month. It is an accumulation of every now you have been experiencing. It it the result of you, someone else, and even uncontrollable circumstances that collide all at once. There is never a perfect time to be hurt. There is never a perfect time to be happy. You just are – and that is okay.

What I do know from various experiences, and the fact that I have built up a lot of trust within myself with myself, is that we get to make decisions every single day of our lives that will shift and alter what happens next. We cannot sit around waiting for “the perfect moment” and we certainly cannot leave major, personal decisions in another person’s hands.

Life can be short – on top of the fact that it is short. I refuse to sit around waiting for my life to begin. I will not accept a mediocre life because, simply put, I am not mediocre. Neither are you.

Some days you will not understand yourself. Some days you will not understand the world around you. Simple statements that can ultimately cause the most chaos in our lives. What you can do, and probably what you should do, is take the time to be with yourself. Set yourself apart. Listen to the noise around you. Reflect on it. Be real with yourself – easier said than done, but always worth it.

There are going to be times in your life when everything within you – you gut, your head, your mind – are going to push against your laid out plans. You will begin to be pulled in ways that defies even your own logic – but you know it is right. It is what is right for you.

Trust your intuition.

Listen to yourself. Begin to craft your own expectations but leave them open-ended. We spend so much time creating realities that do not even exist or that we have no legitimate control over to only end up being disappointed in the end. We cannot control every aspect of our lives and we certainly cannot control the people in our lives. We can open ourselves up to the people, places, and things around us. They can become apart of us in ways that affect our decision-making processes. We can even begin seeing reflections of them within ourselves. What is important is that you are aware of these things. Simultaneously, you need to keep at the forefront of your mind the fact that the reactions you are experiencing from other people are a greater reflection of themselves, their struggles and successes, their current situation, more than they will ever be a reflection of you.

Be okay with the unknown. Be okay with being you. Be okay with being wrong. Be okay with timing not working out. Be okay with just being okay – nothing more, nothing less.

You have to wake up with yourself every single day. No one else can do that for you. You have to live with your decisions. You have to live with your “timing”. You have to live with your complications. Most importantly:

You have to live.

Maybe life is not really about timing or anything specific in the first place. Maybe it is just about figuring out who you are, what you are not, what you deserve, and being okay with it.

Holly Pilcavage

Born and raised in Northeastern Pennsylvania, Holly K. Pilcavage, or simply hkp, is the founder of Project Wednesday and is also currently the Director of Business Development & Operations at CoalCreative, an Internet Marketing Company in downtown Wilkes-Barre. Holly was named a 2017 Top 20 Under 40 by the Northeastern Pennsylvania Business Journal, is a recent graduate of the 2018 Leadership Wilkes-Barre Core Class, as well as a Forbes 30 Under 30 Nominee and TEDx alum. She serves on the Board of Directors for Dress for Success of Luzerne County and attributes her additional time as a servant leader for various organizations throughout Luzerne County. Her truest passion is people. With a background in Business Development, Higher Education, and Life Coaching, Holly focuses her energy on the impact we are all making on one another and the inevitable ripple effect it causes throughout the world. She is currently on a mission to see all 50 states before the exciting age of 30 which means Holly travels as much as possible while taking the time to learn more about people and how we all fit together as individual puzzle pieces.

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