The Hopeful Romantic

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We live in a world full of dating apps.

Romance has been lost to the random one night stands of Tinder and in the sea of judging people by their photos. We no longer work at getting to know someone else. How does one describe themselves in 120 characters or less? How do you get to know someone in 120 characters? Where’s the romance?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always considered myself a hopeless romantic. Constantly intrigued by romantic gestures and their power. The grand, the simple, the day to day, and even the random offbeat memories of a relationship. I was hopeless in romance and for it. Then a buddy of mine, George, changed my perspective on it all.

George put it to me this way. To be a hopeless romantic implies there is no reason to be romantic. No reason to believe in it or its power. He told me how he once had a young lady tell him that romance is dead in our generation. That nobody knows how to be romantic anymore.

We can see waves of relationship changes on Facebook. People in a relationship one day, out the next, a week later in again.

George said to be a hopeless romantic implies that there isn’t any hope for romance and that we don’t believe in it. Rather he said, be a hopeful romantic. Because you believe in romance and its power.

George said to look at romance like religion. We have no evidence that it exists, but yet still we choose to believe in it. The only difference is, that in religion, we are not in control. The big guy upstairs is. In romance, we are able to to take control. Create romantic situations. Most importantly, recognize a situation, beyond our control, is becoming romantic and seize it.

To be hopeful you look at the small things. The day to day opportunities to do something romantic. No matter how small it may be. Opening the car door, getting flowers, or a simple “thinking of you” text. To seize a moment, we could be on a walk and she’s getting cold. We can size the moment a put our coat around her, pull her in close and hug her so she can be warm. Seizing a moment and making it romantic.

Being a hopeful romantic is also still believing in romance and love after heartbreak. Still hopeful that one day your “the one” will come and you can do all the romantic things you’ve thought of.

I want to leave you with the words of my friend George.

“We’re a bunch of rose giving, butterfly-kissing, hand-holding, slow-dancing, candle light-dinners, surprise flowers, road-tripping motherf****.”

Be hopeful and positive in love and romance. Most importantly have faith in it.

God Bless and positive vibes.

P.S. Thank you, George. You’ve been a great friend, you’ve stood by me in a lot of situations and you’ve always kept me positive about what it means to be romantic.

Niall Covington

Born with a genetic disorder, Niall knows what it is like to be knocked down. He has been there several times and he has been able to get back up because of faith and a small number of friends. Seeing others getting knocked down, Niall offers a hand whether he has just fallen or is on the way back up himself. Volunteering as a summer camp counselor for children, teens, and young adults with the same disorder, Niall hopes to inspire them to overcome life's road blocks. For Niall, writing for Project Wednesday is an opportunity to reach more people, and to help more.

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