All the things that we experience happen for a reason.
We all have had experiences that created feelings of misery. We may not see that reason at the moment, but there is a hidden purpose in any given situation. We don’t really learn or grow if we don’t experience some sort of discomfort.
Oscar Wilde said; “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”
With that in mind, we can recognize that each trial is a blessing in disguise.
I was a bitter person before and would always complain about every terrible thing that ever happened to me, complaining about my pain did not change the pain or make it go away, on the contrary this mindset only brought me more misery. The minute I made the decision to look at my painful experiences as lessons, all the weight that I had been carrying was lifted off my chest. I felt that I could finally breathe, I was able to see things with clarity and to look at my past and see the beauty in all that pain and suffering. Now, I have realized that my painful past was really a blessing in so many ways. It made me compassionate, it made me wiser and more resilient.
The next time you are confronted with something that has the illusion of being an obstacle, simply just realize that the greatest learning occurs when we are faced with an obstacle. If it were not for the resistance of obstacles, many people would not make an effort to become better and make improvements in their life.
Throughout our life we will have so many blessings in disguise.
A few years ago, I was living an unhealthy lifestyle, my health was deteriorating. After several trips to the hospital, I knew then I had to make a change. Sometimes an illness can give us a wake-up call to take better care of ourselves.
If you get fired from your job, this might seem like a big problem. However, there could be a better opportunity for you out there, a better job, a chance to start your own business, or this can give you time to finally pursue your passions.
If your partner cheated, it will hurt a lot at first, break-ups suck, but they are good learning experiences. Eventually you will realize that you are better off without this person and that you merely were shown you were investing your life and time into the wrong person. This can be the perfect time to stop and really think about what you want and expect out of a relationship, to really understand what it is you want and more importantly, what you deserve.
Sometimes it only takes one accident for a driver to never forget to check their blind-spot again. A harsh way to learn, but you will pay more attention while driving, some changes in behavior only happen with major shocks to the system.
The death of a loved one can be so painful, but it also teaches us to love and appreciate those who are still living and to be thankful for every day we get to spend above ground.
After suffering a burglary, you’ll never forget to lock the door and windows again.
When you are going through tough times, you will realize who your real friends are. Tough times have a way of uncovering the healthy, genuine relationships from the detrimental. You will learn to be close to those who are nursing your wounds and distance yourself from those who are silent and nowhere to be seen when you need them.
Depression, anxiety or mood disorders forces one to look in on their thoughts and actions in a way that most people don’t have to. People with mental illnesses have the power to help others that are also struggling with a mental health condition. Who better to talk to about something that is so hard than someone who knows exactly what you’re feeling?
There are so many more blessings in disguise and often it can be difficult to recognize a blessing when it comes because it appears as a problem and not a solution.
We need to sit back and look at everything with scrutiny. This will help us to take the best path to get us where we need to go. One of the many beautiful things about being brought down to the ground is the realization that there is only one direction to go, and that is up.
If we’re honest with ourselves, we can look back over our lives and realize that the most important lessons are learned from disappointments, heartbreaks, mistakes, and even tragedies.
Blessings in disguise often confronts us to make the changes we need in our lives.