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How Reconnecting With Memories Of My Ex Helped Me Grow

I have always been the type of person who keeps people close to my heart, even if I haven’t spoken to them in awhile. But one day, I realized just how important my tendency to reconnect with others is.

One night, I was sound asleep when I heard my phone ringing and woke up immediately. I answered the phone, expecting for it to be a stranger, only to hear the sound of a familiar voice. Half-asleep, I said “hello.”

The sweet woman on the other end of the line said hello. She had called to tell me that  I was just calling to tell you that someone I know had been rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery. Doctors were running tests to see if his cancer had come back.

All of a sudden, my heart felt to the floor. What little peace of mind I had in that moment disappeared. I quickly thought back to all tender memories we shared, memories full of love, laughter, and somewhat of a happily ever after.

It’s crazy to think that in that one moment, all the sadness and heartbreak my ex had caused me didn’t matter to me anymore. I remembered all of the reasons why I loved him and thought back on how he was my once my soulmate.

As he fought for his life, I went through my computer and found the last video he had ever sent me. I started to text him, and I must’ve hit “reply” a thousand times. I even thought I heard him say my name again.

Tears fell from my dark brown eyes because this was my only chance to say goodbye. But I called his phone, and I didn’t hear a single ring.

I felt so torn, both inside and out.  We had broken up, and it had left me heartbroken, but I thought about the last words he texted me before our chapter ended and he left my life forever. Sorry I ruined your life. Please don’t ever hate me.

In that moment, I realized the truth: I could never hate him because he’s taught me everything I know about love, heartbreak, and patience.

Even as I enter a new relationship, I still sometimes think about my ex. Even though things didn’t work out between us, I hope that he finds the same happiness that I found with my current boyfriend. I hope that he stays humble and kind. I hope that he finds his someone special. I hope that I could meet her and tell her how lucky she is to have such a strong man.

Reconnecting with the people who are close to you teaches you a lot about how short life can be. It shows you that it’s OK to still love others, even if they hurt you. It also helps you reflect on how much you’ve learned and grown since your loved ones walked away. I’m thankful for the lessons that reconnecting with my memories of my ex taught me, and when you reconnect, you will be, too.

Tylia Flores

Tylia Flores is a 23-year-old born with cerebral palsy. Although her condition has affected her mobility, it has never affected her will and determination.

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