“You are going to be okay.”
“I thought things would get easier.” “When do things start feel easier more consistently?” “I’m halfway through 28. Am I doing this whole life thing right?”
Normal, every-single-day questions. (Insert your own age – I’m sure you can relate to at least one of the questions above every now and again.)
Have you ever had someone reach out to you randomly to comment on how far you’ve made it? How they wish they could get themselves together too? How they feel behind and how they don’t understand how you’ve figured so much out already?
There’s always that pause. That moment where you wonder what that person thinks your life is really like. Hey, maybe you’re the person reaching out to someone else asking those types of questions. The reality is, most of us don’t have a clue if we’re doing much of anything right. When we’re alone at the end of the day, we reflect and wonder if we “convinced” everyone around us that we have it all together for another day.
It’s hard to feel ready to “be successful” in anything we do. It’s hard to think we are the ones that are supposed to take life head on and make all of the decisions for ourselves, our families, our employees, our students – anyone really. From my experiences and various conversations, the reality is that most people don’t have things figured out until they find themselves in a new situation. At that point, they do what they have to and push forward. They learn more about what is important and implement those things into their lives. They bring their own ideas and personality to the table. They make it work – especially if it is something in their lives that feels 117% worthwhile.
If you can relate because you never really feel “ready” or “prepared” for the bigger next steps of life, this next part is for you.
I want to suggest something:
Change your mindset. Instead of filling your mind with thoughts about what aren’t or what you can’t do try focusing on everything that you already are and everything you are capable of.
This is you accepting your past and your present. This is you saying yes to the future you continuously long for.This is you choosing you. This is you loving yourself more than you ever have before.