I was recently in Starbucks, when I ran into one of my mother’s friends. As we were talking, she reminded me that as a 22-year-old, I don’t have to have everything together.
“You don’t have to feel like once you leave college you have to suddenly have a job and jump straight into adulthood,” she told me.
Give yourself some time.
One day, not that long ago, I was meeting with a former friend from school. She was telling me about how she was currently in school and working at a hospital, assisting patients. She said she knew she wanted to go into the medical field, but didn’t know exactly what she wanted to do within the field.
I told her that as kids, we often fantasize about adulthood. We tell ourselves that we can’t wait to be an adult because adults get to make their own decisions and they have everything figured out. But then when we get to adulthood, we find that, perhaps, the notion isn’t quite true.
As adults, we don’t always know what the next step is, and we don’t always have everything figured out.
And that’s okay.
The caterpillar didn’t become a butterfly in a day.
We don’t always have to know what our next step is. We don’t always have to have a plan completely figured out. Life can be unexpected, so allow yourself time to go through the process.
Beautiful things take time.
We are all a work in progress. We won’t get to where we want to be right away; instead, we’ll get there a little at a time.
Sometimes we just need to wrap ourselves in our cocoon, and nourish ourselves to flourish. We must allow ourselves to break down before we break through. We just need to have patience that life will work itself out, and we will emerge from the cocoon transformed — undergone metamorphosis into a beautiful butterfly.
Take time to figure things out. Take time to make mistakes. Take time to build a foundation and get settled before pushing yourself to the next level.
Let things evolve and fall where they may. Let yourself be human. And just enjoy the journey, no matter how long it takes.
Trust that the bigger plan will fall into place, and believe that everything will turn out just fine in the end.
Give yourself time to fail, learn, heal, and grow. Just give yourself time. And take as much time as you need.